Women are still emotionally invested in their relationships.
Women want to feel desired, wanted and irresistible. It’s quite phenomenal how
far women have come in this world, from women’s lib, entering the workforce,
becoming professionals, breadwinners of the family, and now getting their needs
met; even if it means cheating. Now get ready to see what I reveal about why
women cheat and some eventually divorce.
Reason 1. Lack of attention and inti_macy:
How long can you go without receiving love and attention
before you look somewhere else? Some can go for only days or weeks, and others
can go for years. However, in general, women need and desire intimacy, physical
touch, and mental and emotional attention.
If you are not receiving this from your husband or
boyfriend, it will only be a matter of time and you may seek it from another
i.e. a caring guy friend, the attentive guy who feeds your emotional needs at
your workplace, or the hot trainer at the gym. Women deprived of attention,
compliments, and compassion; usually, have emotional affairs. That doesn’t mean
it won’t lead to se_x, but initially, they crave the attention and compassion
that has been absent from their relationship.
Reason 2. Revenge:
Being cheated on is a very difficult act to forgive. For
those of you who have been cheated on, you know how awful it feels. You feel
deceived, hurt, angry, sad, numb and even violated. It also affects your
self-esteem. At the moment, you find out your man cheated, your whole body
begins to shake, you begin to sweat, your stomach drops, and you feel
nauseated.
Clearly, it negatively affects your relationship, your mood,
behavior, and your ability to trust the cheater ever again. When you have been
cheated on, some of you may want to get revenge by making them feel the way you
felt. This can lead you, to do the cheating next. The biggest truth is that
cheating never solves a relationship problem. Communication, assertiveness and
increasing passion and romance in your relationship are a much better solution.
Reason 3. Bad se_x:
Women need to feel desired and experience REAL org_asms
during se_x. If women are getting bad se_x, not enough se_x, non-emotional
se_x, or “wham-bam-thank-you-mam” se_x, you may eventually lose interest in the
relationship and look elsewhere for GOOD se_x! This creates a temptation to
seek se_xual or emotional satisfaction elsewhere. In my opinion, it’s best to
communicate your needs to your man with the hopes that he will step it up a
notch. You can do this on your own or with the help of a se_x therapist.
Reason 4. Weight loss/plastic surgery:
Male attention increases quickly after a bo_ob job, a bu_tt
implant or weight loss, and so does your self-confidence. With all this male
attention, your temptation to cheat rises, and it takes more self-control to
resist some of those male offers. Once you realize other guys want you, your
desire to act on it may have you feeling euphoric. However, be careful, act
wisely and make your pros and cons list.
Reason 5. Financial independence:
When you feel financially dependent on your husband or
boyfriend, it’s more difficult to speak up in arguments or leave the
relationship. The fear of being alone and financially unstable keeps you in a
one-down position. Now that women make their own money, enjoy working, and are
good at it, the need to stay in an unhappy relationship is not necessary. That
feeling of power and independence can be like seeing the red carpet laid out
for you; all the way to those other fish in the sea.
Reason 6. Low self-esteem:
When you feel insecure about yourself, you have a need to
seek validation from others. This can be in the form of se_xual, emotional, or
intellectual attention. When you don’t love or value yourself, you may project
that onto the person you are in a relationship with, and believe they don’t
love or value you. Even if your husband or boyfriend loves you greatly, you
still may cheat because you find it hard to accept their unconditional love. I
suggest reading one of the many self-help books out there on building your
self-esteem, or get some counseling to help improve self-confidence.
