A distraught woman from Nyalenda Estate, Kisumu County
tickled listeners and the host of a vernacular radio station when she reported
her husband’s weird behaviour. The woman asked for advice on how to make her
husband of 12 years stop sniffing her privates and underwear every evening on
suspicion of infidelity.
She claimed that whenever she arrives home, her insecure
husband has developed that strange way of checking whether she has engaged in
any hanky-panky with other men during the day.
“I am tired of this marriage that has no trust. Nowadays
whenever I come back home my husband forces me into the bedroom where he checks
if someone has had relations with me. The habit is now becoming serious and I
am contemplating Apparently, whenever she arrives home, even before she settles
down, the first thing her husband does is order her into the bedroom and asks
her to strip naked. Once nude, he asks to ‘inspect’ her and starts sniffing and
carefully studying her privates to examine whether she has been up to no good.
“He issues threats while at it, vowing to kill me the day he
will catch me cheating on him,” she told the bemused radio host.
The woman said she can’t take the humiliation anymore
because her husband is always suspicious that she is cheating on him. She
expressed worry that her children are now wondering why she is always ordered
to the bedroom immediately she or her husband arrives home.
She complained about how the man doesn’t give her breathing
space; she doesn’t go anywhere without his knowledge, be it to church or even
the market. For instance, when she travelled to her parents’ home recently, the
man trailed her and ensured she got there without branching off the main route
or talking to any man.
Every time her phone rings, her husband must know who is
calling before he gives her the go-ahead to receive it.
If it’s a man calling, he either disconnects or keenly
listens in. If the call takes too long, he throws tantrums and threatens to
beat her up.
The woman claimed she had to seek her pastor’s intervention
to prevail upon her husband but he threatened to clobber the man of God, daring
her to go and live with him if she was tired of the home. The woman narrated
how things had become so bad that she feels like a prisoner, which is why she
called the radio station to vent and ask for advice from listeners.
Fellow women called in and sympathised with her with one
narrating how she was in a similar situation before she separated with her
husband.
