There’s nothing as bad as someone taking away your virginity
forcefully. This leaves one traumatized for the rest of their life and a young
woman who was raped while still a virgin has shared her sad story.
According to this woman, she was raped by a close family
friend who left her pregnant and she had no option but to terminate the
pregnancy. She says since then, life has never been the same again.
“I Was Raped As A
Virgin By A Family Friend. I Was Still Battling With The Trauma Of The Rape
When I Fell Ill And My Mum Ran Tests On Me And We Discovered I Was 3 Months
Pregnant As A Result Of The Rape. I Was Heartbroken But My Parents Were Forced
To Agree To Me Having An Abortion Which I Did Successfully, After That, My
Psychology About Men Hasn’t Been The Same.
I Started Having Trust
Issues Till Date And The Funny Part Is That I Never Get Wet, Though Some Of My
Friends Will See A Guy And Get Attracted To The Person And They End Up Getting
Laid And Come Back To Tell Me How Many Times They Reached Their Climax But I’ll
B Wondering What The Heck They Are Talking About Because I Have No Idea What Is
Called Cum As I’ve Not Experienced It Before During Lovemaking . I Am Scared Of
Sex And I’ve Lost A Couple Of Relationship Because Of This Fear. I Turn Down
Proposals Because I Don’t Want To Sex Starve My Future Husband And He Ends Up
Going Outside To Cheat. So Many Times I See People That Are In Love And I Wish
To Be In Love Too Like Them But The Fear Of Sex Will Just Grip Me And I’ll
Run Back Immediately Into My Shell, Mind You I’ve Gone For Counseling On This
Same Issue And Nothing Has Changed.
I Feel Very Lonely
Sometimes But I’d Rather Masturbate Than Let A Man Touch Me. Will I Ever Find
True Love? Is There Any Good Man Out There That Isn’t Crazy About Sex That
Would Love Me Without Feeling Irritated Or Impatient By My Dryness? I’m Really
Depressed, Please I Need Your Advice.”
Here are some of the pieces
of advice from social media users
Molly: First
of all go through psychological counseling so you can get rid of your past.
Then after that try and open your heart to love and give it a chance it won’t
be easy just take it slow and steady and you will pick up. Make sure you date a
guy that truly loves you, Explain your past to him if he is the right man for
you he will stay with you, support you and you guys will pass this together and
get back your sexual life.
Sean: It’s
a gradual process dear! Let’s go the past, take time to find true love and give
trust a chance.
Kareen: Work
on yourself dear, try to forget the past and concentrate on the future sex in
not everything, there are still good guys out der
Brian: You
need a psychologist to help you out….what you are going through is as a result
of the rape and the result of the rape. It’s called PTSD. Your inability
to get wet or climax is also linked to the disorder because most psychological
problems affect physiological functioning(Psychosomatic symptoms). Once u r
treated psychologically. You will get back to normal